In a previous blog, we discussed perception and reality. Can you see the world through the eyes of another person? Are you able to take on a different perspective? Try this exercise and let me know what you find:
Take a minute to scan your surroundings. Are you in a familiar place or somewhere new?
Stop reading this, and just look around you.
Pick out an object, maybe something you hadn’t noticed before, and focus your attention on it. Once you really focus, it will begin to radiate and become more “real” than it was when it was just an unnoticed piece of the background noise of your life.
Now, attempt to see your surroundings from the object’s point of view. This may be easy for some but extremely difficult for others. Depending on how capable you are at focusing your concentration, you may … Read More »
“Everything you see or hear or experience in any way at all is specific to you. You create a universe by perceiving it, so everything in the universe you perceive is specific to you.” – Douglas Adams
Jim navigates through life wearing green-lens sunglasses, Jane with red-lens sunglasses. At the end of each day, Jim tells his friends how “green” the world is. Jane does the same for her friends, describing in great detail how “red” the world is. Assuming they don’t realize their respective colored sunglasses are worn, which one of them is correct in their perspective of the world?
We all view life through a unique lens or “window” as I like to refer to it. This window may be distorted any number of ways based on previous life experiences. With no two windows being identical, looking through them provides … Read More »
We’ve all had great days when we felt on top of the world. We’ve also had those not-so-great days when we felt like curling into a ball and disconnecting from the world. What kind of person are you when faced with challenging situations? Does adversity stop you in your tracks or are you able to approach every situation acknowledging there is something to be learned? It is easy to appear confident and collected in times of ease; the challenge is to maintain this character in times of difficulty.
Bad things are going to happen… that’s just the way life goes. Situations beyond our control will present themselves in varying magnitudes. What we are able to control is our individual response to the situation. Let us first discuss the difference between a reaction and a response.
In a stress reaction we react habitually … Read More »
As a client stepped foot in the gym yesterday, I felt his energy before a word was spoken between us. Unlike his typical timely arrival, he was running a few minutes behind and carrying the weight of the day in his body and mind. His posture and facial expression radiated a sense of stress and worry. We started the workout and I noticed his frustration build as he had difficulty completing basic movement patterns correctly, an easy task for him on any other day. His A-type personality would not allow these mistakes and I saw him getting frustrated for being frustrated.
“My boss pissed me off, today’s been a mess and only getting worse and now I don’t have enough time for my full workout!” he mumbled as he lackadaisically moved through the warm-up. I knew I needed to say … Read More »
Wake up, rush to work, quick lunch, speedy workout and a hurried dinner later, we finally lay our head on a pillow preparing to do it all over again. Coupled with a book I recently read, an article entitled “Put Food Back in its Place” written by friend Cassandra Jella (rootedtransformation.org) elicited awareness to just how fast our lives pass us by. We as a society feel overwhelmed attempting to keep up with the daily demands of work, school and family obligations. With lives set on “fast forward”, we mindlessly go through the motions in such a way that we simply don’t take the time to stop and smell the roses. We miss the beauty that surrounds us on a daily basis. Life is amazing and it is meant to be experienced. When you feel like the world is spinning faster … Read More »
A few months ago I had the opportunity to lead a seminar educating college freshmen and sophomores on the importance of setting goals. It came as a shock to me when I asked how many of them were ever introduced to “SMART” goals or a vision board; less than 5% even knew what they were. I had only an hour with each group of 20 individuals so I needed my information to be relevant and compelling. I wanted each participant to walk away with an action plan. After all, knowledge without action is just the passage of time.
I focused on how it is essential for a purposeful life to maintain goals (written goals specifically), develop a strategic plan for these goals, and always strive for self-improvement.
I introduced the topic with a study done at Yale University in 1953 that polled … Read More »